Life in the Mum's Lane

Posts about life as a working mum. The ups, downs and humour.

Tuesday, 17 January 2017

Do we have time???

"I'm just so busy."

"I haven't got time."

"There aren't enough hours in the day."

We ALL say it but do we really mean it.

Sometimes is it just because we don't want to do something? Sometimes is because we just want to be still?

We find time to scroll through our phones for hours. We find time to take a picture & upload to the preferred social media platform.  We find time to watch the favoured soap.

For me "I don't have time." Quite often means "I don't have the energy."  The relentless alarm beeping 5 days a week, work, pressures to keep up with household chores, admin and childcare can leave you on empty.

I've been meaning to resume exercise but haven't got time.

In truth I have got time. I usually have a gap between 4pm & 5pm. The kids have their snack & are plugged into YouTube, computer games or Lego and I get a breather before starting dinner.

I could dust off a fitness DVD but what I want to do is sit still. With a cup of tea. Maybe a biscuit or 3.

I've been meaning to read more with my son but don't have time.

You've guessed it I do but it's a chore. He's not 100% enthusiastic about having to read and it's painful enough doing his weekly homework & spellings so I haven't tried as hard as I could & set aside the extra time. We'd both rather be on my phone.

Should I feel bad? Should I manage my time better?


I need some space & calm to have the energy & brainpower to get all the other stuff done. I find the winter months draining.

I know once spring arrives & the days get longer I'll find a little more time.  I'll find a little more energy.  Fingers crossed my exercise hiatus doesn't do too much damage else I'll be finding time for a weight loss group & how would I fit that in!?!

What do you think?

Emma xxx

Sunday, 1 January 2017

The Weight Debate

My recent Crohn's story has made me reflect on our attitude to weight.

I lost 2 stone 4 lbs when I was ill and was frail and anaemic.

It was a weird time and I remember marvelling at my protruding hip bones and being slightly miffed when the weight went back on and they disappeared again.

I am currently struggling with my weight.  I put on 9 lbs in 6 months and a few more have crept on over Christmas.  I feel a bit lumpy and my jeans are tight. Really the next size up is required. Leggings have become my best friend again.  I recently embarked on the 5:2 diet as a regular diet or club is not just not the thing in my current mind set.  It worked and I lost 5 lbs in 3 weeks but a week of normal eating and most of it went back on.  I'm going to see how January goes and then maybe recommence a diet class in February just so I comfortably get back in my jeans again.

I have tried many diets in the past. I know I need to eat less move more.  My weight used to steadily hoover around the same bracket. I was a comfortable 14 and had made peace with never being a 12. Recently though my weight has increased. Is it old age? My lifestyle? Metabolism?  Who knows.

I feel weight is still a taboo subject. The actual figures are rarely spoken aloud.  I think its getting harder to tell what a real woman should look like with airbrushing/filters and the now common selfies disguising the actual body shape/size.

The multitude of diets available also do not help with those seeking weight loss assistance and I find the new phase of social media guru's spouting nutritional advise concerning.  

I want to lose my weight as I'm uncomfortable at present and want to feel better in my clothes. I will never be 10 stone and I do not wish to be. I know it is unachievable for me and frankly for me would be bordering on unhealthy.  For my height I should be between 9st 5 and 11st 5.  I know from my illness 8 years ago anything in the 9 stone bracket leaves me looking unhealthy.

We all know our own bodies and lifestyles and should aim for our own comfortable weight.  Do not allow yourself to be pressured my social media. Do not beat yourself up.  Do not compare yourself to the airbrushed celebrity on the cover of your favourite magazine. We are normal people with work, families, hobbies and restrictions. 

Be healthy and be happy.

Emma xxx

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New Year New Plans

Well 2017 is here can you believe it! I have reviewed my post from last year and on the whole did well but 2 big fails!!!
  • Get fitter - Fail.  I did start the #C25K again but gave up
  • Lose Weight - BIG Fail.  I'm actually heavier this year than last.
  • Save for summer holidays - Success.  We put money aside and had a good 6 week summer holidays.  We planned 4 trips but only managed 2 but did have a mini holiday to Skegness that was not planned.  We visited Legoland and Think Tank and the kids loved both.  We didn't manage Drayton Manor or Sightseeing in London so will hopefully so that this year instead.
  • Concentrate on blog - Success.  I managed more posts, cleaned up my site and even braved YouTube.
  • Social media targets - Mostly Success. Instagram target was 1000 and now on 1417, Facebook target was 250 and now 251,Twitter target was 2500 and now 2328.
  • Recommence volunteering at children's school - Big Success.  Loved it and it has resulted in a job.
  • Me time - Mostly success.  It can be very difficult juggling things but I started Yoga a few months ago.  Its only once a week but I love it and it helps recharge my batteries and I have a quick catch up with 2 or 3 friends.

This year I want to mainly concentrate on my new job which starts on the 4th January and continue to grow my blog.  I'm hoping the new job will help me lose weight but otherwise I will recommence slimming world or weight watchers in February.

I'm hoping to continue with Yoga for some me time and must get in touch with the lady to check when it restarts after the Christmas break.

So far we have 2 holidays planned.  A few days away in the Easter half term and a week away in the summer with relatives.

I want to add stay healthy to my 2017 list and for good health for my family and friends.  My dad is currently poorly so we are getting him back up to strength but I'll elaborate on that on another post.

I want to continue to grow my social media channels and my new venture YouTube.

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What plans do you have?  Do you make resolutions?  How did 2016 go for you?

Emma xxx



Thank you Sian at Quite Frankly She Said for tagging me in the new year post.

You can find Sian here Quite Frankly She Said

What was the highlight of 2016?
Plucking up the courage to apply for a new job & getting it!

Name one thing you are most likely to remember about 2016 if asked in five years time?

Sum up 2016 in one word.
Busy! I find as the kids get older you increase working hours & life gets busier. I love my blog but it does sometimes take a back seat. I have started yoga once a week which I love & recharges me & I get to see 2 or 3 friends for  quick catch up.

Name one pearl of wisdom from 2016 that you will carry with you through 2017.
Don't say only. I used to say I'm only part time. I'm only an office worker. I'm only a mum. But I'm not only anything. I multi task daily. Run a home. Look after 2 kids. Work and love my friends & family. I'm doing a good job.

Do you have any new year resolutions?
No. I think it puts too much pressure on & they get very samey. Lose weight. Go to the gym. Save money blah blah!

How are you seeing in the new year?
At home watching crap telly having a drink or 2.

What would you most like to do in 2017?
Have a few brilliant trips with the kids. We already have a summer holiday planned with relatives and hoping for a mini break in the Easter holidays. A dream holiday to Lapland would be nice but out of our budget. Better get a scratch card.

What are your main goals for 2017?
I start a new job 4th January so my main goal is to settle in there. I'm really looking forward to it.

What are your new year plans/resolutions?

Emma xxx

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